Live and Let Live.

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~KARMA~

The weight of the world on our shoulders is one that we carry by choice. There is freedom. But how do we get it?

In a world where so many people throw expectations and judgement our way; doing ‘wrong by us’  to place us in a stance of being a victim, or holding our wrong doing over our heads to make us feel we have no other choice but to punish ourselves.

We all buy into the old conditioning that good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people, and it is in this truth that we are lead to believe that we deserve the pain we get….and by the pain we cause (however intentional or unintentional that may be) we are instantly doomed by KARMA.

I can understand how this mentality is comforting to those who may have been burgled, or raped, to the family’s left behind when someone has been tragically killed or murdered, the belief that ‘what goes around comes around’ and I do believe that energetically when something that intense is put out into the universe there is, without a doubt, an energy that will be returned in time.

….But in the everyday actions of life, relationship break ups, personal disagreements and misunderstandings. I feel it is a dangerous belief to be tied to and it seems to curse us more than bringing peace to a troubled heart. I am finding personally and seeing all around me that this fixation with 'Karma' is just another way of us holding on to negative experience and bringing it to life over and over again.

I have recently been inspired by the thought that life…..HAPPENS….. We are all doing the best we can with what we have, and with that comes conflicts of interest, it is the way things are. The reasoning behind this is to ‘stir it up’, so to speak.

I know from personal experience that some of the most painful things to happen to me in life have been the greatest gift, my ‘treasure chest’ of learning experience found in the rubble or heartbreak, and within that treasure chest, right at the bottom…is peace…..understanding…..and it all has more to do with what is going on WITHIN me over what is going on outside of me.

I believe in the powers of manifestation. There are demons within each of us that want to be heard, they will rear their ugly heads in any way shape and form they can until you face them head on and hear their voice. These demons will manifest situations to bring themselves to the surface over and over again until in the throes of grief over another destructive relationship break up you see the demon that birthed itself from child abuse that just wants to cry, in the anger of yet another betrayal from a friend; you see the demon that birthed itself from abandonment you experienced as a baby, that just wants to be loved.

Eckhart Tolle speaks of the bad reactions humans have towards uncomfortable situations being triggered by ‘old pain’. We all have it….we all carry it….we all bare it like the weight of the world on our shoulders and believe that Karmicly it is there because we were bad….or we hold it over another because we believe we were good and they were bad. The weight gets heavier with each encounter and the anger, the ego, the attachment, the pain….grows and grows….AND GROWS……

So how do we combat it?

This recipe is one that will be different for everyone, but for me it is to Nurture, Grieve, Create and then Detach.

Nurture

When confronted by a ‘sticky situation’ I do my best with what I have and once I feel the pull I get away from it. Generally when arguments start to go round in circles and ‘being heard’ is no longer on the table, generally as I start to dive head first into 'victim stance' or 'defence mode' ..... this is when I start to feel drained, depressed, muted by anger or any of the above; it is here that I push the world away and retreat to my place of safety. I fill my fridge with glorious foods and burn incense and sink lovingly into a cave of protection where I can control what comes in and what goes out. Solace. Peace. Nurturing.

Grieve

I grieve, I honour my emotions and let them flow out of me like a river, suicidal tendencies, anger, depression, loneliness….just let it out, DO NOT judge what you feel here, just scream, cry, do whatever it takes to bring it up and let it out. It is in this stage that sometimes I will reach out to a trusted friend if I can’t bare the weight on my own, but ultimately this stage is about being comfortable with your own grief and being able to face your demons as best you can. Be brave. Love all of it. Honour all of you and just know you are loved no matter what.

Create

This is where from the ashes, with eyes reddened by tears and a heart weak with soreness;  you stand up and find the ability to create something beautiful out of it. For me I write letters and throw them into the sea or burn them over a candle, I play my guitar and spill words onto paper and sing my hearts desires onto the wind. I switch off the lights and play my favourite music and I dance till my feet ache and my heart is bursting…..until I sleep again……breath finds me here.....self love feels me here.....this is the part where i feel I touch the center of my soul and find the gratitude for ALL situations be they bad, good or otherwise.....Creation is magick in its purest form. :)

Detach

This is the challenge – to detach……it is all too easy when you have been ‘wrong done by’ to hold that fire poker and thrust it towards whoever hurt you…..but do you realise that you hold that fire poker by the hot end?….the pain you want to force upon another with blame, shame and hate – is only burning your own soul to ashes…… There are lessons here in the reflection of you that this person is baring to you. There is old pain wanting to be acknowledged and demons you need to face to be free. Take the opportunity to get on with it…..stand in the fire with it....and when you are done LOVE IT as the darkest part of who you are and then let it go.

Alternatively if you have been the person who made the mistake, and you have sat in the darkness taking on board every hateful thing being said about you and signing the spiritual agreement that brings it into your truth and makes it your ‘KARMIC DEBT’ to the world…..you do not even know the positive change that can come from your blunders…..from your humanness, people make mistakes, it is how we are…it is life…we have no knowing of the reasons why it happens but I believe there is a natural order to things and all we can do is trust……let it happen, take the love and the lesson, say sorry if you feel the need, but don't hold it to yourself, breathe, love, forgive yourself…..and then let it go.

Follow the path of your own heart – it will lead you to every place and every person you need to experience. If you stumble, Nurture, Grieve, Create, Detach and MOVE ON. You are not being punished…..you are not doomed. You are living; and as long as that ‘living’ is being done to the best of your ability; with the best intention that you have; sharing the gifts that you wish to share……there is no wrong. Just be YOU. It is all just experience. How other people choose to perceive you is simply a mirror of facets of their own self…their ‘old pain’ and that is their path to healing being awakened by you. And realize that when people rub you up the wrong way it is an opportunity for self realization and ascending from the depths of your past hurts to the heights of your future self. Let it happen.

Freedom is just around the corner, past the blame, shame, self-hatred, old conditioning and isolation. There in the distance on the road you are walking now, is the place of acceptance, forgiveness, happiness and freedom for all beings that walk this path with you. All you need to do to get there is ‘Live and let live’ ….now who would have thought it was so simple…. ;)

EarthyFae

xxx